10th of October was World Mental Health Day and although I’m always late to the party, I think it’s because mental health is always on my mind.
From my own experiences, my mental health has been most affected by the workplace and in particular because of people. My first year in the NHS, I remember loving every second of it no matter how hard it was. I was a 20yr old university student with no prior experience working in healthcare and there I was, the only Assistant Psychologist supporting the only Consultant Psychologist for a busy community addictions service in a fairly dodgy part of London. It was a whirlwind but one I welcomed with both arms and despite a few very tough moments, and working with a few clients that no amount of time can erase from my memory, I was very happy at work. The most bonkers part of it is that I wasn’t paid a penny to be there. I worked full time, voluntarily, for an entire year just to get my foot in the door. In contrast, I have been in jobs more recently that have been equally trying, yet paid more than I imagined I would achieve at that stage, and I was so unhappy.
So it makes you wonder what the difference is exactly. And the answer was very simple; it’s the people that make the difference. To this day, I refer to that first team I worked with as my NHS family. I knew I wasn’t alone in the hard times, I had people backing me 100%, and there was a genuine care between us that made the worst of times somehow bearable.
And so when I met with a client recently and work challenges came up, out came these very words; “you can stay in rubbish jobs because of great people. But many will leave great jobs because of rubbish people.” The penny dropped.
To date, every unplanned exit from a job of mine has been because of a person or people making my job miserable. No matter how much I loved a job or felt I could really have a career in that particular specialty, if someone (and particularly managers) made it unmanageable, I felt I had no other choice than to walk away.
Luckily, I’ve always been able to find a way forward and progress but I know this isn’t the case for everyone. Many can feel stuck, afraid to leave the known for the unknown, or simply haven’t been empowered or equipped to take hold of the future they want.
If this is resonating then here are some of the things that help me:
If you or someone you know are struggling with your mental health, reach out to whoever you feel most comfortable to speak to and ask for help. If you do what I do, scrolling endlessly through your phonebook worrying about burdening someone you care about, try to squash that thought if you can. Otherwise there are lots of helpful numbers you can call:
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